Why?

Life is trial and error. Whether or not you have a plan, or think you know what you’re doing, you don’t. 

As a 26 year old woman who is still figuring out who she is at times, I do know one thing that’s for sure; I do not go out of my way to purposely hurt others.

Everyone’s different. We were raised in different homes, with different morals, and different beliefs. Some of us, apparently, were not taught with the same politeness, kindness, and class as others. 

Just because we may act differently than others, or say something regarding our styles of parenting, marriage, or other personal decisions does not make us wrong. Just different. 

If one thing gets under my skin, it’s people that throw religion into it. Saying you are a Christian and then proceeding to bash someone is being a total and utter hypocrite. Want to be a Christian? Act like one. Be kind, spread love, and pray for those that need it. 

There have been times in my past where I have let someone have it; I’ve lost control of my emotions and let them define me as a person. I’ve been angry, I’ve been hurt, I’ve been rash, and I’ve been out of control. 

But over time, I’ve learned this is not the answer. I’ve learned that people that act wrongly will get what’s coming to them. Whether you believe in Karma, God, or both, there is no need for us to play the role of a higher power. 

We all make mistakes and in my opinion, this is the only way to learn about life. No one is perfect and no one has the answers to anything, let alone everything. 

So here’s my advice:

Stop the bashing. 

Stop the lecturing. 

Stop the hurtful words.

Stop pretending you’re someone you’re not. 

Stop the gossip. 

Stop the whispering. 

Just stop. And worry about yourself. 

If these negative people put half as much energy into their own life, their children’s life, their marriage, or charity work, they would be better people and I wouldn’t have to pray for them on a daily basis. 

Why are we continuing to spread hate in a world that is so uncertain, a life that is so short, and time that is so precious. 

My advice? Walk away. People like that shouldn’t have the honor of being apart of your life. 

I began blogging because I love to write and it was an outlet to deal with the stress, sadness, anger, and hurt I was feeling when my husband deployed to Afghanistan. It has grown into a way for me to meet other ladies, help companies get more exposure, and help women that are new to the military life or have a deployed spouse.

In the past, I probably would have reacted differently to some of the negative and hurtful things I’ve seen on other blogs, twitter, or facebook, but because I have experienced that it only fuels the fire, I have just learned to take the high road and walk away.

I’m not trying to be famous. I’m not trying to be “popular”. I’m trying to be me, and create a place to look back on the time I have come to find moves faster than we think.

I blog for me. And I blog for those that accept me and relate to me.

I truly cherish the friends I’ve made and would never want to step on any toes, push people away or turn them off. If I have personally offended you and you’d like to discuss it with me, I’d be happy to talk to you. I’ve never meant to hurt anyone in the process and if I have, I’m sincerely sorry.

Let’s help each other grow, learn and flourish. There’s no need to spread negativity and bring others down.