Let bygones be bygones
After reading a fellow bloggers post today, I started thinking about my relationships and friendships throughout the years.
I know that my relationships are quite different between friends. Some friends are more open with me and vice versa. Some people would drop everything and come over if I really needed them. Some would finish a bottle of wine with me while watching silly movies. Some would be crafty with me, go to the gym with me, or go shopping with me.
Each relationship is different and unique and that’s what makes it so great. I have such amazing people in my life; from childhood, high school, college, and army life, and I am so thankful that I have met such a wide variety of people in my time.
But not all relationships that I have kept have lasted. For one reason or another, some relationships have ended. Some have fizzled out over time, and some have ended harshly without any signs of reconciliation.
Did I want them to end? Of course not. Were there good reasons to end them at the time? Maybe. But after all that I have been through and all that I have learned, I do not hold a grudge with any of these people in my past. Although I may not talk to the ones I have had falling outs with, I wish there was a way to mend the relationship and if anything, be civil for the sake of being kind to one another.
Am I perfect? No. Have I said things that I regret? Yes. Sometimes we get so caught up in the moment, we don’t think before we speak, and we say the first thing that comes into our mind. Everyone is guilty of this; we are humans, and mistakes happen.
Maybe you know me and maybe you don’t. Maybe you are one of the relationships I’m talking about. If anything, I know deep down that if I ever ran into these people again, I would be willing to put the past behind us and move on. Life is too short to hold grudges and have enemies. In a sometimes violent world, why spread more hate when we can spread more kindness?
I’ve done a lot of soul searching the past few months and have truly grown into a person I am happy with being. I have tried to be kinder, think before I speak, help those in need and go out of my way to let each person in my life know that I care about them.
The past is the past for a reason, and I am more than willing to give second chances and reconcile with those people in my life who may feel as though our relationship shouldn’t have ended. If someone is truly sorry and a mature conversation is held regarding the falling out, why not forgive? Whether or not this happens one day, I know that I am at peace with it and willing to move on. Hopefully, they will be too.