We’ve all said and heard “I’m sorry” a countless amount in our lifetimes. We’re human, we make mistakes, and saying those magic words is supposed to fix everything, right? Wrong. Why do we say it? Here’s the list I came up with:
-we did something wrong
-sympathy for someone else
-lying (and getting caught)
So saying these words is just supposed to make the other person or people forget what happened THAT time and then when it happens again the words can be said, right? Wrong again.
We’re human, we hold grudges, but in this case I think it is rightfully so. Actions speak louder than words and just because you’re sorry, doesn’t mean you’ve learned a lesson and won’t do it again. In fact, most people repeat the offense and haven’t really learned anything at all. So why do we as humans do this?
Is it because we’re forgetful? Is it because saying I’m sorry ends an argument and conflict makes us nervous?
This applies to every type of relationship: romantic, friendship, parent/child, professional, etc. But there comes a certain point when you decide how important the relationship is. Discuss the problem and attempt to move on, or walk away. Fortunately and unfortunately I’ve had to do both, but I’ve learned a lot from these experiences and know how to handle them.
I’ve always been a big advocate of showing how much you mean something rather than telling it. Are you sorry? Prove it by changing whatever it is you’re sorry about. You love someone? It’s great to hear it but leaving a little note or buying flowers just because you care goes a lot further. Working towards a goal? Stop talking about how hard it is and just get out and do it.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life but what makes me a good person in the end is that I’ve learned from them. I encourage everyone to reevaluate yourself once in awhile and make sure you’re living your life the way you want to. You choose your path and the person you want to be.
Make a promise to yourself and keep it. In the end, that’s all that really matters. You’ll blow all your money, your body won’t be what it used to, but the person you’ve become and the relationships you’ve kept will be the most important thing in the world.