Letters to my former single self

This week’s question:
What did you think about dating and marriage the year before you met “The One?”

Dear Single Sam,

So now that you’ve been out of college for a year and had some “real life” dating experience under your belt, what do you think?

I can imagine you think it’s weird; going on a date with someone and then never talking to them again is completely new and foreign to you. You’re a relationship girl; always have been. Although you have often been described as a free spirit, you find a sense of comfort in having a boyfriend.

But let’s talk about your poor life decisions at this time in your life. You’re out of college, so I’m sorry to tell you this, but it’s time to grow up a little. You can no longer get away with being hungover every Saturday and Sunday. And while we’re on that topic, move out of your parents house. Stat.

I know you think that one day, Prince Charming will just walk into your life and you will ride happily into the sunset on his noble steed. I can tell you, that will happen. To some extent, anyway.

But right now, focus on you. Focus on your job. Focus on making long lasting relationships and finding out who you really are. I know you’re going through a quarter life crisis and your daily life of frat parties and lecture classes has now become answering phones and inputing data. Hang in there, it will get better.

Here’s a few things you should know:

You’re not going to meet a guy in the bar; not one that you can marry anyways. Some women can, but you, trust me, you won’t.

In college, you fit in by drinking as much as you did. Now that you’ve graduated, it just makes you look like you have a problem. Stop.

Don’t go into every date or relationship thinking he could be “the one”, especially if you don’t really like them. Don’t force feelings.

The guys you’ve been dating, you know, the juice head guido kind, stay away.

Oh, and stop throwing up the deuces and kissy face. It was cool in college but now, you just look dumb.

I know I’m joking around a lot but I’m trying to get you to understand that finding “the one” will happen on it’s own. I know you’re down on yourself because that loser you thought you loved broke up with you and your plans were shot to hell. But, be glad he did… you are SO much better off without him.

Don’t go looking for guys to date right now, just let them come to you.

Until next time,

The older and much happier Sam.

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