“Me” time as a mom? What’s that? Jk.. I know what it is and I get a lot of it now that both of my kids are in school. Oh right, I’m pregnant and that’s going out the window soon. So I guess we should talk about how how to find “me” time as a mom, especially with young babies!
Alone time: First of all, it’s a necessity. I nursed both of my kids and I plan to nurse this new one too…and my kids refused bottles. Which meant I was at their beck and call whenever they needed me. That can get EXHAUSTING both mentally and physically. I found that feeding baby and then leaving immediately after nursing them gave me a few hours to get out and get my hair done, run errands, whatever. But mark my words, this baby will know how to drink out of a dang bottle!
Treat yo’ self: I have always made time for my hair and massages. Those are two things I will not compromise on. I try to do massages monthly because my back and neck are always out of control with tightness and knots. And a little pampering goes a long way.
Pool of sitters: We’ve never lived near family (until now) so I’ve always had to have a pool of sitters to choose from. If one was busy, I’d go to the next. When Z was deployed it was a matter of life and death that I had one. I also had a Mother’s Helper last summer that pretty much just played with the kids and got them snacks while I worked from home. Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t (they saw me and they wanted me).
Find a hobby: in Georgia, my hobby was line dancing. I went line dancing every Friday (and sometimes Saturday too!) and I loved it. I’ve danced my whole life and I loved being able to do something that made me happy, kept me in shape, and introduced me to so many amazing people. I haven’t found a hobby here yet (can work and hobby be one in the same?) but I’m working on it.
Make an effort: I know this sounds crazy, but take an extra few minutes in the morning to get dressed and do your hair or makeup. (If those are your things). I just feel SO much better and more like myself when I actually make myself feel and look presentable. Not hating on sweatpants, trust me. But for example, if I don’t put my contacts in or do my hair, I just feel like a slob.
Give them a bedtime: What I’m about to say may sound terrible. But give your kids a strict bedtime for a few reasons. 1) it’s good for them to be on a routine 2) you know that at the same time everyday, you’ll be putting them to sleep and have x amount of hours to yourself. That will give you the energy to be present and spend quality time with the kids during the day, and then have a few hours before bed to read, take a bath, watch reality TV, whatever! The possibilities are endless!
Ask for help: This was something I had a serious problem with at first. I thought I could do it all and felt like a failure if I needed help. DON’T BE LIKE ME. If you need someone to come once a week and help you clean house, hire them. If you need someone to watch the kids so you can get some rest, do it. You’ll be a better mom for it… trust me.
Life changes drastically after having kids. You no longer have the convenience of doing whatever you want, whenever you want. But it doesn’t have to change who you are! It’s all about finding the balance between parenting and finding time to be YOU.
How do you find “me” time as a mom?
Want to hear what other moms do to find time for themselves? I’m linking up with a group of bloggers (who are moms!) today:
Laura (Have Need Want) | Heather (My Life Well Loved) | Alyssa (Feathers and Stripes) | Samantha (The Samantha Show) | Caitlin (Confessions of a Northern Belle) | Lauren (Outfits & Outings) | April (April Golightly)